What it's really like

You say you want to be his girlfriend?

You think you can handle his child(ren)?

Let me tell you what it's really like.

Imagine spilling your love to multiple people and it's more people than you ever thought you would at the same time. 

Imagine your spare energy, your spare money, and your spare time, always offering an opportunity to be used for someone else's needs. 

Do you know how much food it takes to feed and cook for yourself? Imagine multiplying it by how many people are in your house - every day. 

Nothing in your space is private unless its locked. 

No amount of effort, love, and money will make you their parent or anything close to their parent. 

Your opinion on parenting doesn't matter. 

But these are things you expected right?

Let me tell you things you probably don't expect. 

While you are giving 2x+ the amount of love you would in a childless relationship you will only get 1/2 or less of that back to you. 

Don't expect little open arms, expect closed ones, that you will have to pull open yourself with resistance if you really want them. 

Don't expect to fulfill what their parent(s) are not because you are not them. 

Children are focused on their world, with their parents, and their activities. Your activities, your accomplishments, and your announcements don't mean anything to them unless it affects them, usually negatively. 

While they are allowed to tell their parents everything and anything - you have a spy in your house who will tell a person who hates your guts anything they want to know about you.